Too Much ‘Good Cheer’
Despite the constant good cheer, we all know the holidays can be a difficult time for many. As always, we are here to support you.
We might be missing family members who are not close by or maybe visiting family members who bring up unhealed wounds. With parties, family, travel, and a heavy emphasis on gift giving and receiving, the holidays can bring up a multitude of feelings. From family drama to financial stress, it makes sense that this time of year isn’t always a cheery time for all.
And that’s okay.
Your holiday season doesn’t have to look like a Hallmark card. The sensory overload, emphasis on unhealthy foods, constant well wishes, stores flaunting big sales, questions about plans, and barrage of social media posts all add to the pressure many people feel during the holidays. If you’re feeling triggered, anxious, lonely or noticing grief popping back up, you’re not alone.
So what can you do to carve out that extra support for yourself during a frantic or triggering holiday season?
The good news is that you have the power to take various actions (and inactions) that can alleviate some of that stress and ensure a more balanced and peaceful holiday season. And the key– there is no one size fits all. This holiday season, see if you can apply the theory of personalized medicine to your personal self-care by following the steps below.
What we have no matter what in all these situations is our relationship with ourselves. So start by asking yourself the following questions:
How am I feeling?
How can I fill my cup with love?
How can I be more gentle with myself?
How can I pamper myself?
What do I need?
Maybe It Looks Like
- Maybe it looks like being a little more patient with yourself than usual.
- Maybe a daily bath or walk outside.
- Maybe it looks like putting away your work to-do list and your personal to-do list and giving yourself permission to accomplish nothing (which is accomplishing a lot in the long run).
- Maybe it looks like sitting on the couch staring out the window, listening to a loved playlist, or diving into a new book just for pleasure.
- Maybe it looks like sharing with a loved one how you’re feeling, or maybe it means taking space to process things in solitude.
- Maybe your body is craving a hearty vegetable soup or perhaps it would rather indulge in a decadent chocolate cake.
- Maybe it’s time to finally make that recipe. (if you need some inspiration 😉
- Maybe it looks like setting or reinforcing boundaries around how you spend your time and what you say yes to.
A Holiday As Unique as You
The beauty of this process is that it won’t look the same as anyone else’s. Slow down and tune into what you need this holiday season to stay balanced and grounded– and then give yourself that thing! Buy the chocolate cake! Say no to the plans. Start reading that book.
Though there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach to self-care during the holidays, going for a walk outside is almost guaranteed to help bring you a sense of calm if you don’t know where to start. The combination of being outside (even if it’s cold!) and gently moving your body is one of the simplest and most powerful ways to boost your mood– even if it’s just around the block.
Listen to Your Heart
When you get quiet enough to listen to what your body and heart are telling you, you become more aligned with your authentic self. When you act from this place, and nurture yourself from here, people will feel a sense of groundedness about you that they can’t help but be curious about. You will, in time, actually inspire those around you. So don’t worry about what others might say or think, and make the decisions that are best for you during this time of the year.
Be Gentle with Yourself
Keep coming back to these questions above for moments of pause and check-in throughout the holiday season, and keep taking aligned action to give yourself what you need. You are capable of providing compassion and care for yourself in the same way you constantly deliver compassion and care to the loved ones in your life. So allow this holiday season to be what it is, accept what comes and do what you can to be there for yourself.
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